Okay, this will be quick! I just need to petty rant for a second.
I was being nosey one day when a friend’s phone rang. It was her husband. And I know it was him because I saw his full first and last government name come across her screen. Girl, what?! I’m not judging, but… okay, yes I am. In my humble opinion, that is just so impersonal. I mean, is this your husband or is this your co-worker? Okay, let me stop before I make someone insecure. Thank you for letting me petty rant.
So, why is this important? The reason why it struck me was because I realized that I don’t think my husband’s full name has been his name in my phone since before we became a couple. Once we became official, cheesy enough, he became “Boyfriend” in my phone. As things became more serious, he became “My Only Squeeze” (even more cheesy). Now I’m “My Rib” in his phone, and he’s “Partner-in-Crime [heart] [heart eyes] [kisses]” in my phone. Now he’s contemplating changing it to “Dream Come True” LOL.
This has been a small way that we have built intimacy in our relationship. We intentional pick something that fits where we are and how we feel about each other in that season. There was about a couple weeks when he was actually “Mr Annoying” in my phone because, well, self-explanatory. I quickly changed that though because we want it to reflect something positive about each other and our relationship. It causes us to think about why we love each other. This may seem like a small thing, but honestly, sometimes it’s the small things that can make or break a relationship. I’m not saying that if you don’t change your SO’s name in your phone then you’re headed for a break up. I’m just saying, we can get caught up with living our mundane lives, take for granted the short moments we have with one another, and miss out on opportunity to grow with each other.
Building intimacy in small ways can give us freedom from other little things that may sabotage our marriage or other distractions that may want space in our hearts. Don’t let the enemy get a footstool or, in other words, don’t leave the door to your heart cracked open.
The beauty that comes with the freedom of building a solid, intimate relationship is that the more you focus on it, the more you get to experience the depths of the best things in this life. For example, more joy, more peace, or love, kindness, faithful.. You get the picture. :)
Maybe for your and your spouse, the phone name change is not enough, or it’s just not for you. That’s okay. Find something else that works for you all. Find many things! It could be as simple as hugging or kissing 5 seconds longer on your way out of the door or when you come home from work everyday, or sending each other love songs or poems via text, or just surprise gifts or acts of kindness. Whatever you do, have fun with it and know that it all works together to build a strong, intimate relationship.
P.S. Yes. Yes, I do think this helps make sex even better as well.
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